He is still my friend (A letter to my ex-boyfriend)

Dear You,

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I know the situation we are in right now is not typical, ‘cause break ups are suppose to be messy (based on the standard of this world); full of pain, suffering, bitterness, revenge, sadness, etc. But because of God’s grace and redirection, we both understood that “the core values and beliefs of one person is not open for adjusting to a relationship”. I will be forever grateful for the way things turned out between us. We can both say, “it ended well”.

We both valued our friendship more than anything. After all, we started as friends before we became lovers. People for sure will question our friendship, because it is not common for ex-lovers to be friends. Maybe people will ask, "Didn't you guys used to date, how are you still friends?" and my answer to that is because of love. Love is not only about romantic relationships, there is a lot more. Love is liberating. It provides sense of belongingness and freedom. Like what we did, we freed each other knowing that this is best for both of us. We didn’t try to manipulate each other just to make our relationship work.

Also, I have discovered that if I will try to make people do what I want them to do closes the door for God to speak to their hearts. I need to release you, even if it hurts. I need to accept the reality that we are not meant to be a lover but as a friend. And I chose not to hold on because it will delay the greatest vision of God set for you. Even though you already set your mind that you will never be able to convince yourself to believe in God, I will still hold on to God’s word. He loves you and He will not let you go. In His way, in His time, you will be able to encounter His great love and accept Him as your Lord and Savior.

You know me very well. You know my passion and desire. I will never forget what you have said to me “You deserve someone who has same passion, same beliefs, someone who can give you a Christ-centered relationship.”

Thank you for still being my friend, travel buddy, my walking dictionary (pakicorrect nalang yung mga mali ko dito), geeky buddy, photographer and my encourager. And as I’ve said before, I’m still here for you. You can still call me whenever you need someone to listen to your corny jokes, creepy stories, plans in life, and whatever you are going through. You are always included in my prayers. I will never get tired of reminding you of how precious you are in the eyes of God. I know we still have our rough patches, but I know we will continue to work out whatever bumps we go through.

I know many things will change now, but it is the beginning of the amazing memories we are going to make without the pressure of being in a relationship.

I have so many things to thank you for. You showed me what true love is and what a true friend is. Thank you for being genuine. And most importantly, thank you for letting me understand your decision to end things in the most mature way we could've possibly handled it.

As much as I appreciate and thank you for all the good memories, I also want to apologize for all hurt and pain this relationship has brought to you. I hope you will always remember that you are loved and forgiven in everything.

May all of you dreams come true and every desire of your heart be granted according to His perfect plan. I know better things are yet to come.

From,

Cha CF