Guiding Principle

You need to be secure with the love of Christ before you can truly love someone.

ONE HAS TO WAIT, but waiting entails a lot of struggles. Some who have waited for some time had suddenly swerved when the rubber met the road. It could be influenced by a number of things so here are list of the factors that keep us from waiting:

1. Time and Trust - Time is telling you you’re growing older and pressures from other people have come up to your neck already. Well, you’re not alone. There are a number of us and the best way to handle that is to stop counting down time until your partner comes. Let’s start counting on God instead. It’s basically a trust issue. Can you trust that the God who willingly gave His one and only Son, can also give you a man for you to partner for life? You’ve waited this long, why compromise now? God can and will provide at the right time.

Take note! Right time! So when do you know it’s time? Does it come with age? Let me share what I learned from a well-respected man. The moment you’re willing to be single for God is actually the very moment when God gives you your partner because it just simply means that you’ve already reached that height of satisfaction in Him and are now ready to go to the next level.

As the saying goes, “If you can’t be happy alone, you can’t be happy with someone”. There’s always a proper time for every matter.

“Whoever obeys his command will come to no harm, and the wise heart will know the proper time and procedure” – Ecclesiastes 8:5

2. Emotions - “You don’t understand. I love him.” Are you sure? Are you sure it’s love?! Or lust? Can you distinguish? Love is patient. Lust wants now. Love is gentle. Lust gets its way harshly. Love does not envy. Lust is filled with insecurity. Love does not boast. Lust compares. And the list goes on…

“You don’t understand because you’ve never really experienced it.”

I often hear this kind of reasoning. You know what?! If I wanted to sound sarcastic, I would say “You don’t need to stab yourself with a knife in order for you to know it can kill you.”

Wisdom comes from God. You “may” probably learn from experience but you need not be the victim.

3. Lack of vision and conviction - Most of the time, Christians are not exactly convinced about why they can’t “partner” with someone who doesn’t share the same belief as them because they themselves don’t exactly value their Christianity. Being a Christian simply means that you’re a follower of Jesus and if that person isn’t, how can the two of you walk together?

Some would argue that we’re being legalistic and would ask “Where is grace in the picture?”.

Grace is there to enable you to say NO and it’s never a legalistic act to have the discipline to say NO to things that would endanger you later on.

God bless everyone!